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Aug. 16th, 2009 04:46 pmAlready I am having some privacy issues with my mother. I'm debating how to approach this, really. You see, in my head I am taking this as a cheap option of somewhere to live, something I am very grateful for. My parents are essentially my landlords, and as such I will do what I am told, within reason; I do not bicker regarding any TV decisions, I do not leave any of my stuff anywhere but my bedroom, I'm doing a very large share of the housework. I don't mind all of this.
THAT SAID I would like some privacy. She takes the "I am your mother, and I am concerned" route. I am taking the "I am 22 and paying rent and therefore feel that I should be able to leave a room without being quizzed about it." Last night involved her following me to bathroom. I THINK IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN OBVIOUS. They are - and always have been, I realise now - a very open family, but living with other people for four years means that, you know, I don't see why people need to know that I'm going upstairs. "Why?" "I'm going to my room." "Yeah, but why?" "... to shoot up? Why do you think? I'm going to sleep."
I haven't really been out yet, to be honest, as everyone is busy. Tomorrow I can has a![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
loneraven and a tau_sigma which is very exciting indeed and involves a day out of the house, and I'm tempted just not to let anyone know. ALL THIS SAID I understand her concern - in her head, I'm still barely eighteen - and I used to be worried if a housemate absconded for more than a day or two, but honestly, I would just like to move around by myself and enjoy some privacy. So I will probably leave a note or something and then do a dignified runner. But... it's stuff like having to put my shifts up on the 'family' calender. Why? We haven't done anything as 'a family' since long before I left and I have yet to see much evidence of it here.
I can't deal with how bloody noisy they are too; the doors and walls are thinner here, and also it is impossible for people to communicate WITHOUT SHOUTING UP THE STAIRS LIKE THIS. And lord, do not get me started on the smoking.
Still, the next few days will be fun, which is the really important part. And work starts soon, which isn't good but will be an interesting new start. YOU SEE POSITIVE.
THAT SAID I would like some privacy. She takes the "I am your mother, and I am concerned" route. I am taking the "I am 22 and paying rent and therefore feel that I should be able to leave a room without being quizzed about it." Last night involved her following me to bathroom. I THINK IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN OBVIOUS. They are - and always have been, I realise now - a very open family, but living with other people for four years means that, you know, I don't see why people need to know that I'm going upstairs. "Why?" "I'm going to my room." "Yeah, but why?" "... to shoot up? Why do you think? I'm going to sleep."
I haven't really been out yet, to be honest, as everyone is busy. Tomorrow I can has a
loneraven and a tau_sigma which is very exciting indeed and involves a day out of the house, and I'm tempted just not to let anyone know. ALL THIS SAID I understand her concern - in her head, I'm still barely eighteen - and I used to be worried if a housemate absconded for more than a day or two, but honestly, I would just like to move around by myself and enjoy some privacy. So I will probably leave a note or something and then do a dignified runner. But... it's stuff like having to put my shifts up on the 'family' calender. Why? We haven't done anything as 'a family' since long before I left and I have yet to see much evidence of it here.I can't deal with how bloody noisy they are too; the doors and walls are thinner here, and also it is impossible for people to communicate WITHOUT SHOUTING UP THE STAIRS LIKE THIS. And lord, do not get me started on the smoking.
Still, the next few days will be fun, which is the really important part. And work starts soon, which isn't good but will be an interesting new start. YOU SEE POSITIVE.
