etiquette

[hathycol]

No, I really am going to write a proper update soon, but I have an IMPORTANT QUESTION that NEEDS ANSWERING.

It is my mother's birthday on, er, Monday? So I have purchased a card. But Simon is here and as such he will also be expected to remember such important occasions as he is One Of The Family now, or so I would assume. Does he sign the same card as me? Married couples, how do you go about it? Do you sign the same card when giving it to parental units? Need to know by tomorrow so I don't miss the post.

HELP!

[eta: card is done and dusted and signed from us both as we have distinctive handwriting - thanks all for advice, though! And yes, this is very silly but my mother is a FREAK about stuff like this and this is still all new and I'd like to do it right so I get some money towards the wedding. She holds grudges from when I was about 9 and someone didn't invite me to their birthday "even though you invited her to yours!" Odd lady]

~Hathy_Col~

Comments

[hannahbassill.livejournal.com]

Yeah, Ash and I sign the same card.
xXx

[calmunity2.livejournal.com]

technicly your not married yet but it probably would be nice for simon to write a card as well

[kelemvor.livejournal.com]

I've been signing cards from the pair of us for a while now - since before we moved in for friends; since we moved in for family.

[trav28.livejournal.com]

Yep - we both sign but Linds often fakes my signature because I am crap and forget this kind of thing ;)

[emmysuze.livejournal.com]

Lol, this is silly! Just do what you and Simon feel comfortable with. There's no point in etiquette is everything is forced because it looks twice as bad as if you're just being yourself. I tried teaching someone proper table manners and it was such a disaster I let him do whatever he felt like because we could have a conversation while we ate rather than him sitting there concentrating on drinking from the right side of the soup spoon.

I think there's a lesson in my snobbery somewhere...

[jennnlee.livejournal.com]

I'd agree with emmysuze as far as "do whatever's comfortable." All our cards are signed "Morgan and Jennifer (and Sarah and Gambit and Max and Wash and Kilroy)." But we're also coming up on ten years married, twelve years living together. I honestly can't remember how soon we sent "joint" cards. But I do think it has to do with Simon's relationship with them: how well do they know each other/get along/etc. My first thought would be to have the card just from you since you're not living together. But it could be a nice touch for him to sign it, with a little note saying that he was in town and was able to sign.

[kittyc1978.livejournal.com]

I know, I'm late...but...I always sign Jer's name to my family cards and he signs mine to his...

I can't remember when I started doing that...probably after we got married...I remember he gave my mom a card on her birthday which scored him some points, but I don't think one was Required...